A few weekends ago I had the honor of giving a Matron of Honor wedding toast at my best friend’s wedding. I had never given a toast before nor had I had any experience in toast writing. Going into the toast writing process blind I turned to online sources like Wedding Wire and Pinterest as well as advice from friends who have given toasts before.
I tried desperately to think back to my best friend’s toast at my own wedding but I couldn’t remember much other than that it was sentimental and I teared up a few times. (The day itself was pretty blurry and fast.) I sat down with pen and paper and thought back to memories of my best friend and I growing up together. I realized I had a TON of toast material but if I spoke of all of our memories…we would be there all night. No one likes a rambling Matron of Honor!
I started my toast by introducing myself briefly and when I met the bride. I always enjoy our story of friendship since it began 23 years ago in our first dance class. It didn’t hurt that our moms became friends too!
I dove into a few highlights of my favorite memories with her. From dancing in her parent’s patio and Wendy’s trips with her older sister on our way to dance class to our love of the Backstreet Boys I touched on our favorite memories together and shared interests. (Like the food table at any debutante party!) I kept it fun and flowing lightly touching on each highlight with a brief sentence.
I transitioned into a sentimental memory, one that would make her feel special. For this I chose one of my favorite memories of us growing up and pretty much the moment we decided we would be life-long friends. I was a little bit nervous writing it out in fear that she wouldn’t remember but I had to do it. It meant so much to me and our friendship to say.
I was nervous to send the toast to my co-toast partner and even more nervous to read it aloud at the wedding. Until I remembered that I could barely remember the toasts at my own wedding! You see I put a lot of pressure on myself especially when it comes to writing for others. I always want to put my best work out there and this toast was a big deal.
When I met with my toast partner, we pieced our portions of the toast together and did a test run with my parents and husband. They loved it and we were relieved to be finished! We just had to get through the actual toast at the wedding. We were both pretty nervous! But our wonderful husbands made sure our drinks were filled before we stepped up to grab the mic.
Overall, the wedding toast went very well! The audience seemed to enjoy it. I got emotional a few times which I hadn’t planned on doing but sometimes when you are in the moment it happens. Once we finished our toast I felt unbelievably relieved to be done. Wedding toast writing does not have to be complicated. It should be a fun way to commemorate your friendship with the bride or groom. Don’t overthink it and remember to make it fun and from the heart.
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