You can learn a lot in a year! Since Judd and I have logged a whole year of marriage this month it got me reflecting on everything I have learned in our first year of marriage. Like many things, marriage is a continual learning process. I am still learning so much about our relationship, marriage and even myself. (And that’s after dating for almost 5 years!) Here are a few things I have learned in the last year of married bliss:
- Keep dating even though you are married. I saw my parents go out on dates all the time growing up and they still do to this day. You’ve got to keep dating each other even after the wedding bells. Dinner dates, movies dates etc. Find time to get out of the house and out of your usual routines and treat each other to a night out together.
- You will still have tiffs and disagreements. Just because you have rings on your fingers doesn’t mean tiffs and disagreements won’t happen. Like anything, marriage is work. It will mean more to you when it comes to resolving any disagreements. No marriage is perfect but working through things will only make it stronger.
- Time to yourself is necessary for success. Judd and I made sure of this even before we were married since we lived together beforehand. Make time for yourself in your marriage. Whether that be one night a week where you can go to a yoga class and have a glass of wine with friends or just some time in another room to yourself. Having your own identity in your marriage is so important.
- You will fall into routines. I swore we never would but once we were married we fell into the weekday routine: Wake up, work, come home, walk dog, make dinner, shower, go to bed. REPEAT. Mix it up a bit! Go out for dinner one night. Wake up early together. Change up your routine because it will happen.
- Work together on things. From chores to cooking dinner-being married means working as a team on every day things. We got Gus 2 months before our wedding and he is both of our responsibilities. Marriages work if both people put the time and effort into them.
- Always remember to HAVE FUN! Seriously. Life is hard. Days will suck. But being able to have fun in your marriage makes life so much more enjoyable! Be spontaneous! This past weekend we saw Def Leppard live after randomly buying our tickets last Monday. It was spur of the moment and made for an amazing date night!
I had heard that the first year of marriage was the hardest but in all honesty our first year of marriage was wonderful! We worked through things that came up, celebrated in small successes and shared new memories that will forever last a lifetime. I cannot wait to see what this second year of marriage holds!
What is one thing that your relationship has taught you? Share with us!