When Judd and I began dating we talked about keeping a bucket list. He bought a composition notebook and put our names in it. We sat down and came up with things we wanted to do together, places we wanted to travel to and things we wanted to see. All of these items made up Our Bucket List. Each time we accomplished something off the list we would mark or check it off and include the date it was achieved. For the first year or so of our relationship we kept up with that notebook.
Recently I found Our Bucket List notebook. I flipped through each of the pages and updated dates of when we achieved things. (Rough estimates for some that I couldn’t remember!) I handed the book to Judd to check out. He looked through each of the pages and smiled. One of the things I love about looking back on this notebook is the memories from each task we have done. For instance, we put “move in together” on our list which we ended up doing just 6 months into our relationship. It was the scariest thing I ever did. Scary because who just drops everything and moves in with a boy?! Apparently I did and it was the best decision I ever made. That was in June of 2011. It was our first place together and a test of our relationship strength. Looking back, I am so glad we put that in our bucket list. What a memory!
We really haven’t given this notebook our attention over the last 4 years but we figured we would bring it back and but revise a few things. This new and improved list would be known as Our Married Bucket List. I see our bucket list as a way to keep our marriage fresh and adventurous. We added a few places we want to travel to over the next few years but still kept in mind that there were items on this list that we haven’t yet achieved. One item we recently marked off was geocaching together. It was something that Judd loved to do in his free time back home and he wanted to take me. (Sharing a post on that later!)
Our Married Bucket List is also a little goal we have before we start a family. Mainly the traveling parts. I think it would be awesome to keep our bucket list going once we have kids and incorporate their suggestions into the list. Our Married Bucket List has a lot of advantages. Here’s why we decided to make one(and why you should make one too!):
- It helps you get out and exploring together. Write down everything you want to do, see and explore in your bucket list notebook. This alone should motivate you to get out on the weekends and achieve those things!
- It makes you accountable for those goals. Just like writing out your goals, writing our your bucket list keeps you accountable for doing those goals. Seeing them in writing on paper makes them real. Just go do it!
- It brings back memories. Once you start accomplishing your bucket list items you can go back and see what you have done. (And when you did it.) My new approach to Our Bucket List is to write about each task. (Blogging about it too!)
- It keeps your relationship/marriage fun and exciting. We all fall into routines. This bucket list should keep that from happening! Do different things each weekend and keep your relationship exciting!
Have you thought of making a couples bucket list? Do you have a bucket list with your significant other? Share with us!