Siblingship (noun): friendship of siblings after years of rivalries, fighting and arguing. Typically occurs post childhood.
When my mother told me I was going to have a baby sibling, I was nervous but ecstatic. I was 3 years old and the world pretty much revolved around my parents until Matt was born. Like every sibling relationship, ours was a roller coaster. On one hand I always had someone to play with, discuss our dysfunctional family with and laugh with. On the other, we would fight, argue and butt heads over many things. Like most siblings growing up. No siblingship is perfect! But I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Being 3 years older and the first child, I was the Guinea Pig for everything. I made mistakes and my brother learned not to make the same ones. I pushed my parents and brother away to feel “independent” in college even though I was still living at home. I moved out when I was 21 and realized how important it was to keep my parents and brother close.
It took a few years for Matt and I to get to a point where we could have a mature siblingship and enjoy each others company again but when we did it was worth the wait! Having a younger brother taught me a lot. It taught me how to share, help others and how to be a protector. I would take a bullet for my brother in a heartbeat.
Every time we are home or visiting each other we make a plan to grab drinks or brunch together. This past weekend Matt came up to Jacksonville to visit for the day. We spent the day with Judd and Gus at the dog park and had a nice dinner afterwards. Later in the evening we went out for a glass of wine to just vent to each other. That’s what siblings do.
We had a heart to heart on everything from growing up to dealing with life after college-something of which my brother is gearing up to do. I’m so proud of who Matt has become and how he has grown in the last (almost) 23 years. We can have grown up conversations together without a fuss and even if there is a fuss we manage to always work through it.
If you have a sibling(s), call them. Reach out to them today and strike up good conversation. Visit them. Besides our parents, they are all we have.
Photo by Steph Owens Photography